Get your advice lickety-split with the latest edition of Savage Love quickies! by Dan Savage 1. This debate is raging again, Dan, and we need you to issue a ruling: Do straight women belong in gay bars? Some (straight women, gay bars), not all (straight women, gay bars). 2. Why do men keep ghosting me after sex? I’m a 25-year-old woman. No clue. You could’ve had a string of bad luck — and fucked a dozen (or more) shitty guys in a row — or it could be something you’re doing wrong. Even if you don’t think you’re doing anything wrong, once you’ve noticed a pattern of behavior and/or results that makes you unhappy, it’s a good idea to make some changes. Try meeting different kinds of guys in different kinds of ways, try slowing your roll/hole, etc., and take time along the way to engage in constructive introspection and make further changes/course corrections, as needed. 3. How do I stop people from falling in…

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Advice for those who feel like democracy has abandoned them. by Dan Savage Dear Readers: Well, fuck. Reading a sex-advice column at a time like this — to say nothing of writing a sex-advice column at a time like this — might seem a little pointless. But I’ve lived long enough to know that seemingly pointless distractions, small comforts, and guilty pleasures have the power to sustain us in bad times. Taking a moment to read (or write or illustrate) a sex-advice column — or listen to or make some music or watch or make some porn — doesn’t mean you’re complacent or complicit. (Unless you voted for him, of course, in which case you can fuck the fuck off.) Because it’s the little things — the small pleasures — that keep us sane, keep us connected, and keep us going. Anyway, sitting down to write a column this week lifted my spirits a bit. I hope reading this week’s column lifts yours.…

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Happy Soft Cock Week to all who celebrate! by Dan Savage We’re giving you a break from whatever stressful stuff is going on this week to bring you some of the more…interesting calls we’ve collected. A man’s girlfriend wants to try saline injections on her breasts for a “24 hour boob job.” The question is, can he safely do the injecting? A woman’s cat is grieving the loss of her longtime companion, a small dog. Now the kinky feline is demanding unspeakable rough treatment and her “owner” is neither G, G, nor G and does NOT consent. Happy Soft Cock Week to all who celebrate! Our guest is “professional cuddler” Michelle Renee, who is helping to launch a worldwide celebration of the penis in repose. She offers a kind and loving perspective on a topic that really needn’t cause so much anxiety. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Paul Rosenberg, founder and manager of Rain City Jacks, a private, non-profit jack-off…

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